One Of My Mentors – Mark.

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I felt particularly lucky to have some very important individuals in my life as mentors.  We all have certain people in our lives that we can look back on and truly realize just how much they help shape our lives, our thinking, even though we might not have completely felt that they had at the time.

A Mentor is described as a trusted counselor or guide or also can be defined as a tutor or coach.

I can look back at some relationships with friends, coaches, teachers, professors, family members and others that you might know from a distance.

Profound thoughts or ideas that make you think outside the box, make you think that you can truly accomplish a project even though you might not have all the pieces in place.

It is the way they said it, the way they defined the process, the way they encouraged you to find the solution to the initial problem. It is how you make that decision to undertake a problem that just beforehand you had no idea how to possible put things together.

It is this type of stimulation that sets off the lights in your thinking and encourages you to set out and find the solution.  It doesn’t have to be a big problem but one that has previously been outside your realm of thinking, your comfort zone or a thought process.

If I think about it, I have had many individual mentors and the influence that they had on my life and in turn, how I approached a situation.

Obviously my parents were a big influence on my early years of growth and surprising enough, the lasting thought processes that still impact how I undertake something and think about it.  There are somethings that were probably negative about this process, but very few in comparison to the positive ones.

To this day, there are ways in which I still tackle a problem or I look at a situation that the influence of my mother appears.  I know that this is probably more true than not, with many of us.

One of my mentors that I just had lunch with, as I do about every month or so,  is one of those people who just is fun to be around and whatever conversation comes up.

During my professional education, he was one of my clinical professors that I got to know, but didn’t really have a lot of contact with other than as a professor.

I got to know Mark much better as we continued our real education after we graduated.  He was in private practice, as well as being a clinical professor.  It was his approach over the next years that had been the biggest influence on my approach to how I practiced.

Mark was one of those rare individuals that seemed to implant into your subconscious a way, an approach to do things a certain way that made it extremely enjoyable and a sense of true accomplishment and just plain fun.

We had a study club (or a mastermind group) that would discuss and demonstrate new ideas or even older ideas that would allow us to understand and refine our ideas, our approach and our techniques.  A true educational approach that helped many of us to understand newer ideas in a way that was practical and helpful.

Mark would be our speaker for many of these mastermind meetings because he freely gave of his time but he also was a master of his profession.  He loved what he was doing and never hesitated to help pass that on.

He was a true, relentless educator that was always willing to teach all of us the things that he had learned over the years, so we didn’t have to go through a lengthy trial and error period.

He was that true teacher who would pass it forward and never think twice about sharing his wealth of knowledge, his wealth of understanding patients and loving and enjoying these patients.

I had lunch with him last week and as always, enjoyed the experience immensely.  He doesn’t hear as well as he did and he has macular degeneration, so he doesn’t see as well as he once did, but that makes no difference in his conversation.  He is as lively and as educational as ever and still has his strong opinions as far as what is necessary in this world.

Mark is 95 years old and lives in a retirement home, but still reads many books and can watch TV through a special way of fixing the screen on the TV so he can watch documentaries.

Mark is just one of those special people, a special professor that took the time to help other professionals in such a way that you cannot help but put him in his right place as a special person – a special mentor!  Mark is one you can’t help but love for who he is – a true professional and a true mentor.

“It is not what I want FROM you but rather what I want FOR you!”   – anonymous –

Mark is a special mentor and in the true sense a special person.

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About John Logan

Enthusiastic past health care provider with the ability to enjoy the good life by involving myself in the internet marketing arena. The love and genuine sharing of ideas amongst the many individuals involved with internet marketing, at all levels, makes my daily routine one of gratitude and full of enjoyment. The days are full of excitement and learning but with the allowance of free time to enjoy family, friends and activities.
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6 Responses to One Of My Mentors – Mark.

  1. Hi John,
    I know this comment is probably slightly off topic but I think that many parents do not realize, or even care, about the extent to which they are mentors. As I get older and observe not only myself but also the friends I’ve had since high school, it is uncanny the extent to which we come to resemble our parents. Not just a physical resemblance, but in many ways we unconsciously adopt their lifestyle choices. For instance, most of my friends who grew up in homes where the parents smoked are now smokers themselves. If one or both parents were alcoholics, (even “lightweight” alcoholics), dollars to donuts there is never an occasion when the fridge is not stocked with booze. Mom never stood up for herself or pursued a career, daughter doesn’t either. Dad stonewalls in front of the TV, son does too. Unless a conscious decision was made for the apple to roll away from the tree, families repeat the same patterns for generations. They tell themselves the same lies like “everyone in our family has allergies”, or “obesity runs in our family” and play out the same behavioral patterns often without even realizing it because they just do what seems normal. This is also closely tied to the discussions we’ve been having about homeostasis and the way we do one thing being the way we do everything. Sorry for the rambling comment, but I really did enjoy this blog post!

    • John Logan says:

      DeAnna, Thanks for your reply and I certainly enjoyed reading what you have had to say and I would agree with your comments. And I do agree that parents do not realize just how much influence they have on their children and too many times they do not realize or could care less that they have this much influence on another person, let alone their own children. I wish I knew a lot more of this type of behavior when I was a young parent and I would have done a heck of a lot more to be much more positive and understanding parent. I have a good relationship with my children as adults but still I feel I could have done more. I do not feel badly about it at this stage but rather looking at it as an even more positive experience. Thanks again for a great response.

  2. brad hines says:

    Having a mentor is something we can all use. Apparently there is this website for finding a mentor, the name escapes me at the moment.

  3. John, I’m glad you shared your story about your friend Mark. Sound like a great gentleman indeed. It is important I thing to spin off of what DeAnna said by stating that it is up to us to know when we have found a mentor as valuable as Mark, and to listen to them and ALLOW them to help us. It is also important to know when we’ve found someone who’s mentoring us in the wrong direction and be strong enough to dissolve the relationship for the good of our own best interests.

    Thanks for sharing!

  4. The degree to which accept that mentorship is how much they show up in our lives. We have to submit and subjugate our egos.

    And…it’s very cool that you have that person, John. I’ll bet you’ve been a great mentor to more than one person in your day. 🙂

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