We all talk about happiness in so many different contexts, but what do we really mean and how can we actually work on making our daily routines filled with more happiness?
How do you help yourself to possibly improve the happiness in your own life. We have to have a purpose, having the intention, resolution and pure determination to be striving towards meaningful goals.
Even in our Declaration Of Independence of the United States this is stated: “We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness…….”
Live each day as though it was your last, enjoy it to its fullest. Set daily goals for yourself and don’t worry about those who want to add misery to your thoughts, because they are your goals and if they have real meaning for you that is what really counts.
Happiness is truly a state of mind. It is one in which you can decide whether or not you want to be happy or not. If you want to be happy, you can find that happiness wherever you go. It is your attitude towards yourself that really determines if you want to be happy or unhappy.
Dr. Maxwell Maltz, a plastic surgeon and the author of Psycho-Cybernetics found that many of his patients were looking for solutions for their unhappiness and were looking on the outside. Dr. Maltz found that many of his patients needed more healing on the inside rather than the outside and consequently this was the impetus for his studying and eventually writing of his books.
Dr. Maltz had a series of strategies for happiness and he named seven, but in reality, there can be as many or as few as you feel might be helpful in your own pursuit of happiness.
Tell yourself you have the right to be happy and don’t let others attempt to put you into a state of worry with their problems. Set apart a certain period of time during the day for relaxation and “my time” that give you peace of mind.
One of the biggest aspects of happiness is to accept yourself as who you are, with your strengths and weaknesses. Just be yourself and don’t try to be someone else. You are unique and have a lot to offer.
Dr. Joseph Murphy, in his book: “The Power of Your Subconscious Mind” points out that there is only one important point about being happy. You must sincerely desire to be happy!
The habit of contentment is very important. Make your habits to include an attitude of contentment. Dr. Maltz suggests that: “Your mind is such a potent tool. Remolding your truths, harnessing your imagination, driving yourself into the channels of success, you can use your mind to make you relaxed and happy. You can make contentment the essence of your life?”
Get into the habit of laughing and as we get older, we sometimes forget just how therapeutic it can be. Laughter can allow the mind and body to forget any troubles and just enjoy the present.
Sometimes we need to take a good hard look at ourselves and realize the importance of “accentuate the positive and eliminate the negative” as the old song goes. This can be a refreshing period of realizing that you have many good points that you can accentuate. Be realistic with yourself but not harsh and you will see what you have to offer.
Zig Ziglar suggested:“If you can dream it, you can achieve it. You will get all you want in life if you help enough other people get what they want.” Napoleon Hill and Clement Stone in their book Success Through a Positive Mental Attitude suggested that: “One of the surest ways to find happiness for yourself is to devote your energies toward making someone else happy. Happiness is an elusive, transitory thing. And if you set out to search for it, you will find it evasive. But if you try to bring happiness to someone else, then it comes to you.”
There is no question that happiness is contagious but some look at the same type of idea as misery loves company and this can be contagious also. It is up to you as to which one you choose.
Think of all the activities that can bring you happiness and they come in all kinds of forms. Some use golf, tennis, swimming, painting or any kind of activity that they enjoy to free their mind of possible pressing matters.
Strengthen you self image by giving yourself some appreciation. Give yourself credit for what you are and who you are. We all have attributes that are positive, so work on this aspect of your daily thinking. Life is too short not to enjoy it to its fullest. Babies grow up, kids grow up and soon they will be the adults of the future. Give them the positive feedback that they deserve and let them carry this with them into adulthood. This is one of the best carry it forward messages that you can provide and it will pay big dividends – I can guarantee that!
Believe in Yourself – The Shortest Route to Success!
If you got anything out of this post, let me know and we can enjoy the laughter together whenever we meet face to face.